Holly is the founder of , an organization dedicated to documenting and ending the problem of street harassment. Perfect for criminal justice practitioners and advanced human rights, criminology, and victimology students, Interpersonal Criminology explores the complexities of crime and interpersonal events in both established and emerging fields of criminology, including those concerning women and minorities. Leave me alone or I will report you. We cannot know what other behaviors, both verbal and non-verbal, he was exhibiting while exposing himself, so we cannot be so quick to assume that he intended to use his penis in any other way than to show it to her. The 50 stories were submitted to or featured on the Stop Street Harassment blog.
From catcalls, sexist, homophobic, and transphobic speech to flashing, stalking, and groping, gender-based street harassment is a problem in public places worldwide. A true must-read for every person ever! I interviewed a few months ago, and we spoke about what street harassment is and what we can do to stop it. However, consider some positive alternatives: if she hadn't smashed his penis, might he have learned that his behavior was inappropriate and not done it again? The logic you are using escapes me entirely. That dubious distinction goes to the woman who smashed her harasser's dick with a can of creamed corn. It took me 18 years to summon the courage and power to yell it out, to defend myself.
She stared back to try to make him feel uncomfortable and stop, but he just kept staring. I'm tired of it, and I want it to end. Shame on you Addie for dismissing this very real threat. She started talking and we had a completely improv conversation with fabricated details, as if we were age old friends. She thanked us, because in fact she didn't know these guys at all - she met them at the club, and one of them had been trying to get her to go off with them. And of course, women in the middle east are mutilated because they wait around until someone with less societal clout is alone with them and proceed to intimidate them with rape threats by throwing their exposed body parts on the table. She is the founder of the nonprofit organization, Stop Street Harassment and a consultant for organizations like the United Nations, the State Department, One World Education, and Change in our Lifetime.
For example, if a kid was being bullied in school, and one day comes to school with a knife and stabs the bully, was the kid who was being bullied in the right? Maybe she should have thrown her skirt over her head and begged for mercy? He also would be conditioned to be be gentle, accommodating, and nice to the opposite sex at all times. If she hadn't smashed his penis, might he not have possibly had difficulties in conceiving children, whom he would had raised very well and been an excellent father? The clerks actions in the first story were completely appropriate. And funny in dark sort of way. Just before we arrived at the last train stop, she turned around and pretended to have just recognized me. Sharing the story: Speaking or writing about one's experience, Kearl said, allows individuals to take back their power, work through the upsetting experience and help other harassed people feel less alone.
In this spirit, here are nine stories women shared with Stop Street Harassment about their most empowered responses to harassment, originally featured in. . The police arrived and she reported him. He ended up spending the night in jail. If she were being threatened with a fist and she smashed his hand, would that be too too harsh? Building Inclusive Cities takes a cross-cultural learning perspective from action research occurring throughout the world and translates this research into theoretical conceptualizations to inform the literature on planning and urban management in both developing and developed countries. Through them they have achieved many successes, challenged oppressive practices at a local and global level and have developed outstanding entrepreneurial activities. You are stretching my words to their breaking point and pushing your rather biased agenda on me because you disagree with me.
Having the opportunity to read the stories and maybe try it yourself, and feel that empowerment, feel like you can stand up for yourself. For example, when you search for a film, we use your search information and location to show the most relevant cinemas near you. But to suggest that smashing his penis in half was an appropriate response is simply too much - that is condoning what I would argue as unwarranted violence. She kept quiet, until this incident. When I learned the phrase, I was so relieved: there was a name for what I experienced. But back to the main point - the woman in the story physically assaulted a man, which probably resulted in permanent damage.
She is the founder of the nonprofit organization Stop Street Harassment and a consulta Holly Kearl is an expert on the topic of gender-based violence, including street harassment and sexual harassment in schools. And finally, for once, I felt vindicated…So simple and quick were the words I uttered. They are about women and men of all ages and backgrounds in 16 countries, from Afghanistan to Tasmania. Please refer to my response to Beverly - it is very disconcerting when physical assault and mutilation are cheered on because of strong biases toward highly negative outcomes that might not have even occurred. If that pervert would have kept his penis in his pants he wouldn't be hurtin'! The next morning, a detective went with her to the subway station, and she spotted the harasser. The problem was I never understood why I felt this way. This was a quiet train and everyone turned around to look at him as he cowered in the corner.
We don't know what would have happened had she not used that can as a weapon, but what is scary is that some people, such as yourself, are very much blurring the line of what is appropriate and inappropriate courses of actions merely because of assumed possible outcomes. Like Oath, our partners may also show you ads that they think match your interests. I think everyone owes it to themselves to understand what street harassment is and how we can make everyone in the public feel a little more comfortable. Food for thought: if a creepy little woman walked up to a man in a convenient store after everyone left and exposed her breasts to him after she put down a can of corn on the counter , would he then be entitled to smash her breasts because he was feeling threatened and intimidated, possibly rendering her unable to breastfeed in the future, feel pleasure from them, or might even require surgical intervention? This book is intended to inspire both thought and action. Overall, by automatically assuming the worst in that kind of situation, you are demonizing the man who is exposing himself and whether the demonization is warranted is another discussion entirely. So I think having something short that you can say in a lot of situations can be powerful. It has to do with appropriate responses and the fact that so many people are making light and laughing at the suffering of another person, merely because he's a man and that everyone is assuming such malevolent intent and potential outcomes from his single action.
I was also looking for a variety of tactics, for example reporting a harasser, public shaming, getting an apology — a range of ways people were dealing with street harassment. This is why I like to believe in karma. We cannot make broad, sweeping generalizations about someone based merely on one act like this, as that leads to very callous and erroneous trains of thought, as evidenced by Beverly another poster who responded to my initial post. I have always been uncomfortable with people talking to me on the street. Another occasion stands out for me because of how scary it could have ended.